8 weeks until D Day!!

[flowmom]

I hope that you have some good things planned for yourself while the boys are away. The arguing sounds hard. Keep strong and take care.

[lea74]

Hi Flo, thanks - yes I have. I am going to dinner tonite and a yoga class tm nite. Tuesday nite is dinner with some friends.


I am really sad we argued again. We have been doing so well and I have been feeling so strong. It just proves by working through my L we have managed not to fight. We only argeud becasue my H called and asked why I used a court order. He caught me off guard so I didnt have an answer and we just went back and forth about the fact that I didnt have a choice as he wouldnt give me the information before, he accused me of not giving him info etc.

I would like to communicate with him and mediate, but really dont think it is a good idea. my H is starting to manipulate me again. He arrvied to fetch my sons in tears - I asked why he was upset as he has never shown emotions regarding our stitch - he said it was about us!!! Interesting.

[lea74]

I have again given in and said that I would sent my H an email with my thoughts on how we should split up assets etc. This is based on discussions with my L. I know I shouldnt probably send it, however dont want to wimp out. Would it be a bad idea if I just sent a one liner with the exact words from my L. I want to show my H that I can defent myself and not hide behind my L.

[goldfiber]

Nope from Georgia

[lea74]

Sorry only, found one douglas with a middle name of magdalena - am I close???

[goldfiber]

Nope, ok I'll try to find you

[goldfiber]

Lea, I am having a beautiful day. I have peace that passes all understanding in spite of my situation! I pray that your situation will turn around. It's not to late for a miracle.

[goldfiber]

Found a lot of shelleys.

[lea74]

I know who would have guessed my name is so popular. Okay - another hint - I have a double barrel dutch surname with a van in it!!

[lea74]

Hi G, thanks for the message - but I am afraid it may be too late for a miracle. My H is absolutely hell bent on a D. He would loose too much face now to turn around and come back home. Honestly I would not take him straight back - but I would be willing to date and start again.

Although my week away with my sons was fantastic, I really missed my H. He has been apart of my life for 22 years and it felt like a piece of me was missing. I have been defined by him, which I know is not healthy, but we have been together since I was 15 years.