Calling all affair annihilators & boundary setters

[courts0818]

Okay, so it's been almost a week since H admitted his cheating. I've had a little time to process this. I'm not sure what I want, but I wonder if it's time to try and discuss anything with him. I can only ignore him and leave the house (when he comes over) for so long.

And not that I care right now - but I know he doesn't like it when I ignore him and hive him attitude - and that's all I've done. Well, I haven't given him too much attitude, I just leave as soon as I can when he gets here. I haven't looked at him directly or said much of anything to him.

In thinking about talking to him, where would I even begin? Should I give it more time? There have been so many lies and so much hurt that I don't even know how to start any kind of dicussion. I have soooo many questions, but don't know which ones to ask. Am I really ready to hear his answers? Will he tell the truth or just more lies? I just don't know.

I've also looked into a key logger - is it time to go there? I SHOULD have done that long, long ago. But I was thinking it might be helpful now to see if H is telling the truth or just more lies. I'm not sure where he does the majority of his computer stuff (checking email, etc.). He used to have a laptop through work, but he started a new job and IDK if they have given him a new laptop yet. He does get on our home computer at times, but not as much as he used since he got a Blackberry (again through work).