Hello G. I won't say no to a little gas or even en epidural if need be, but the aim is to walk into the birth with no fear ! My bub is a little girl too :-) I was happy to have the sex surprise early, and leave other excitements for the delivery. Also I thought at 20 weeks, knowing the sex might help H see this baby as a reality baby and not a concept or fantasy baby. Not sure it helped a bit. Once I shoot that email off today, I plan to head into MEEEEEEEEEE time also. I hope to keep building my strength and belief that I will be OK if H never comes back. For me, the world is greyer without my favourite person by my side.