No I don't give him a clue I know what he's doing, apart from the few times I've put boundaries in place, after that I have left him to work it out himself! Yes it's a bit of a control thing with him, I've always been the stronger character he's always the giver! This is some thing he can stand his ground on, maybe it's also about him not making the wrong choice with his friends, he doesn't make them easily so he's hanging onto her!
Good idea to get him to console S he's away till mon but that could be interesting to see his reactions to S' discomfort.
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