Is this piecing?

[flowmom]

Regarding the MC...I don't know what to think about this. I think you need to figure out what you're going to tackle in the session. This would require you to be very strong, but ideally I think you would state at the beginning of the session that you're only willing to talk about coparenting issues and stick to that. Talking about that will take the whole session and it's something that your H has to deal with no matter what his choices are about your M. IMO any talk about the future of your M is not going to be productive right now. You're angry, hurt, and devastated. He is in extreme avoidance mode and has demonstrated very hurtful behaviour to you recently. I really doubt that he will be receptive to anything you or the MC say about working on the M right now. Sorry .

Maybe in the session you could outline your expectations of him as a father and have a written list:
1. treat me respectfully as the mother of your children
2. financially support us
3. be available to change plans and step in if I am ill and unable to care for S
4. be available to change plans and step in if S is ill and I have work commitments and you do not
5. find mutually agreeable ways to communicate about parenting issues, esp time-sensitive ones
6. etc.

I think you need to focus on a positive coparenting R at this point. Your S needs that, you need that, and even your H needs that. If there is hope for reconciliation, the work you do on coparenting provides a foundation for that.