Need encouragement/stage 1 advice

[TeaEarlGreyHot]

No problem w/ venting. And what is not surprising is how deeply the anger can run.

My ex-being willing (and able) to tell me how angry she felt at me 28 years later over some perceived slight was pretty remarkable.

One other thing, I don't know if you are aware of the concept of "passages" (a term I beleived was coined by Gail Sheehy). It sounds a lot like both are you are at one of those points.

The Captain