Thank you FM and G. You both always know exactly what to say. I really look forward to your feedback and input as I always find it so re-assuring and comforting.
You are both wonderful people and I am so sorry that you are on this forum and going through this process as well.
((( ))) to you both.
Me 37 years young!! S11 S7 T22 M14 D final 13.05.2010 Today is the first day of the rest of my life!!! First post: D Day has arrived
Doing well. Not much going on. The D complaint I received from W has not been filed and because it was faxed to me, L tells me treat it as if I have not received anything. I understand my W actions now, every action she has taken has been in response to action taken by me first. She is truly in MLC as she has ran from her entire family. Lately she has reached out to kids and grandkids but it has been very uncomfortable for all involved.
My focus is on me, trying to take advantage of this time and really get selfish, not worrying bout W or M. I pray for her everyday, but I make no effort to contact her. I finally understand this is bout her and I need to allow her this journey without my pushing my way in. She knows that I love her, that's not why she left. I'm at peace
Hi G. Thanks for the response. Just back from Faro with my boys. We went for 5 fantastic days - just what we needed. It was lovely but also sad as it was our first holiday without my H. I really felt it that he wasnt there. My S7 was also sad sometimes. He saw other familys and asked why he didnt have one anymore. I did try to reassure them that we are our own new family.
Anyway on the plus side I did it! My 1st vacation, I paid for it, booked it etc all on my own and I survived. This was huge for me.
Me 37 years young!! S11 S7 T22 M14 D final 13.05.2010 Today is the first day of the rest of my life!!! First post: D Day has arrived
Hi Lea, so glad that you had a good time with the boys. It think it's important that you try to make things as normal as possible, the boys will remember these times and your efforts. Look for me on fb as Douglas
So H just fetched the boys for a couple of days as it is holiday time here. Before he came he called. He asked why I had done the court order and anyway to cut a long story short we got into the usual argument. He cant understand why I wont talk to him. I said why should I? He hasnt shown respect, I just want to be left alone etc, etc etc. I am now really angry with myself for again letting him push my buttons!!
Me 37 years young!! S11 S7 T22 M14 D final 13.05.2010 Today is the first day of the rest of my life!!! First post: D Day has arrived
I feel your H is not happy, if for no other reason, cause he has lost the ability to control you in every situation. He now seeks chances to gain that control back and each time he can't he's gonna push every one of your buttons that he can. Stay in NC except for issues to kids. That's the only thing you should talk to him about. Everything else goes through L.
