But I did give my "message" for him if he was interested. It was 7 numbered points like "i love him and always will because of what we had, but we are not friends right now," "i'm willing to do counseling, but that may not last much longer," and then details about baby stuff like I don't want him at the birth but I do want him to see the baby after the birth. Oh and that he could contact me if he wanted input in her name, but I was prepared to name on my own.
I think you have handled this brilliantly, G ! I am very impressed with your boundary setting. You sound to me like a woman who knows what she is worth.
Passing on your list to the inlaaws is an effective way of letting them know your values, without have to get into a discussion about it.
Plus I am having a hard time imagining in-laws acting as 'mediators' in your M. Having said that, there are so mnay rubbish counselors out there they might do a better job!
Awesome news about the baby shower. Mine is next week! Also sounds like you will be well supported in the birth. My mum did Lamaze... I'm doing Calmbirth/hypnobirth.. yes, we can have more positive and peaceful births than the medical profession would have us believe!
Hey, isn't it funny we three (you, babydoll and I) all know the sex of our babies. Maybe we're the types that like to have info.
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
