I would really welcome thoughts as to whether LBS are in control of the pace of this situation - I believe fundamenatlly that it'll be me who'll decide whether the marriage ends or not but maybe I am just fooling myself?
You can only control YOU. Nothing else. If YOU want to end the marriage you can. YOU can not control the MLC'er to do anything.
Think of it like watching a movie on film. You pull up a chair and watch till the end. If You go to the projector to try to speed it up, you tangle up the film and it takes longer to untangle it so you can watch the end of the movie. If you decide you are leaving the theater you don't get to watch the movie at all. Does that make sense?
I would get some popcorn pull up a chair and start watching the show.
