Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

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BD and G, thanks for helping me out on my thread. I really flunked the email test, didn't I. Oh well, back to the drawing board as they say.

BD, your H probably doesn't mean all the mean things he is saying about your marriage. You know these WAS's say anything to justify their ditching the M and the responsibility. Gotta justify his poor decions somehow, doesn't he?! Don't let him destroy what is true - that you probably had a reasonably good if not great marriage.
Something has happened to him.
Your step by step account of what happened once you found out you were pregnant through to the divorce papers is really insightful of you. It just goes to show how he's freaked about being a Dad. I really think it's nothing to do with YOU. It's so about HIM, in my humble opinion.
I reckon you are right to DB for YOU, not to save the M. The M will be saved only if you end the sressy interactions with H and things calm down. remember don't beleive a word he says and only half of what he does...so important with these nutty spouses going through their "crises".
Also relate to you and G re keeping up the contact, even neg contact, meant feeling closer to him. I think it's partly the fear of losing them, and wanting to maintain some control. ocs when the drama is gone..the silence is deafening. We are suddenly alone. the end seeems nigh.But G is right, eventually hopefully we see it's better that way.
Like Gucci Loafer says, we girls have to see that ending the contact or letting them go once and for all does not end the M necessarily. Dont want to give false hope - maybe I am a real sucker for hope ... But if we are strong and beautiful mums, surely we are going to attract the best for us and our children.
I am not religious but I feel belssed to be able to share this horrendous ride with you two and be able to suppoort each other when we each need it.