6 MONTHS IN AND FEELING A WOBBLE........

[lalxx]

Thank you all for your thoughts.

I suppose I swing from absolute comfort with how i am handling things to thinking "gosh, is he really happy with her and he's never going to be in my life at any level again??"

I just struggle to reconcile the man he is now ith the fab human being used to be.

I am the only person in our circle of friends this is happening to (although on reflelction our friendship circle has seen several MLC's in the last 8 years or so). I don't talk about what's happening to most friends as most don't understand why I am taking the approach I am - they think I should GAL and by this they mean divorce, get a new man and crack on with breaking up everything that's been imprtant to me in the alst 18 years - I am not saying my situation won't come to that but the time isn't right for me at the moment. It's lonely sometimes....

I would really welcome thoughts as to whether LBS are in control of the pace of this situation - I believe fundamenatlly that it'll be me who'll decide whether the marriage ends or not but maybe I am just fooling myself?


One of my 180's is to be 'less controlling' - I would say I am organised (Mum, run my own business, busy social life etc) but it was one of the reasons my husband left me (that and a love of old ceramics, vintage handbags, showing him no love, undermining him in front of the children - MLC rantings I believe now - but they were real last year in the midst of the not knowing what was happening......).

lalxx