Got very discouraging email from FIL tonight - need help with PMA guys. Please help... input - Allen, Puppy.
There are 4 Stages of Marriage: (1) Romance, (2) Disillusionment, (3) Misery, and (4) Awakening. Due to the high divorce rate many couples never make it to the 4th Stage of Awakening.
I find this list to be depressing I can only imagine that the person who devised it was depressed and or in a failing marriage. [Projecting??]
Although my X followed this route we were romantic, then she found disillusionment (happlily ever after fantasy big with her) since happyness didn't walk in the door and jump in her lap she got a divorce.
You are in the Misery stage definitely and H has convinced himself you're only friends.
I personnaly feel you two could be good for each other, but he has convinced himself it is over.
Waiting for kids to get through High School won't help you or H, and is lying to the kids.
For H to be a "single father" with three children right now would BLAST him into an Awakening of what you have provided his children and him.
I feel they've given up on us. I am still not ready - I know that this is hopelessness and H doesn't see a way back. Am I deluding myself? Is this script? I feel like it is. His last attempt to get them on his side... I feel that if they accept this, it's the last nail in our coffin.
