WAW and the law of attraction

[FormelyknownasF]

I appreciate your sincerity and respect your opinion, robx and Kim.
I've taken it all to heart.

All I'm going to say it's pls judge me for my actions and not for the questions that I ask.

I want to learn from this. Not just to follow a recipe. And learning means I tell you what's the situation is, ask questions, listen to your opinions and make the best decision. And yes, they'll be a lot of stupid questions so please bear with me.

The changes are real. I've been out socializing with the opposite sex, taking care of myself, keeping busy, etc . Small steps maybe but all in the right direction.

It's unfortunate that it doesn't show in my writing but, I do feel and look more confident. People have been complimenting me on that too.

Who told me that she needs to be aware of the changes and that I need to appear mysterious and new to her? Almost every book and piece of advice I've been given.

"You need to start doing things that are out of character for the way you've been acting lately, become more upbeat in your partner's presence. You need to appear pleased with yourself and your own life (...) Start being less predictable (...) You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening (...) You should pull back and wait to see if your spouse notices".

From DB.

It's a legitimate question to ask: How is she going to notice if don't live together, see each other facebook, etc?

Now, that leads me to this:

She'll pop her head up when it's time for her to do so, not on your predetermined time table.

I'm confused now. That means she's in control. The way I saw it was, I was the one who told her "We'll talk when I'm ready".

Anyway, that doesn't change the fact that she is not behaving in the way you and me were expecting. No calls, no attempts to make contact. Silence.

It's not about ME NEEDING her to do any of that. All I'm saying is that according to the plan and to other threads I've read, this is highly irregular and it's a legitimate concern to have.