Always a pleasure to have your thoughts here so I thank you
Originally Posted By: Virtually_Handsome
focusing on your partner before you take care of yourself is probably not going to get you where you want to go.
I rest my case...
This is what I see on the boards recently...
I see people telling newbies that they need to basically bend over backwards to the spouse who is running away/cheating/ignoring etc...
Buy them flowers, show them you love them, buy cards, write them poems, don't forget their b-day or any holiday that happens during the sitch etc...
WTF is all I have...
Yes PLEASE reward them for CHEATING on you!
The first time I saw that, I almost fell out of my chair.
The important thing is that even if you did fall out of your chair, that you got back up.... just in time to give your cheating spouse a foot & back rub, a warm meal and a dozen roses ;-)
