Turning to you for hope with WAH

[pandora]

Full story here (it's long but tells you the whole situation if you want to read). WAH -- is there any hope?

I need some advice and motivation to keep hope (especially if any of the wise sages are reading this!). My WAH has really checked out emotionally but is very nice to me on the surface. We have a good friendship and are living together right now after 6 months of separation.

I am turning to you all to help me with your wisdom and support. This is so hard and most days, I really feel like it's not going to work. But the hope still remains b/c I really have faith in our marriage.

Have read DB, talking to DB coach (who is excellent!), read so many other marriage books and feel like i've tried everything under the sun...but so willing to try much more!

Here are the things he says:
- "i don't feel connected...i want my W to be my best friend but i don't feel like that's you."
- "you've changed but i can't get over the past hurt...i tried so hard early on in the marriage and i guess we both missed on our tries"
- "you deserve better. it's not fair to stay together just because i don't want to be lonely" (me thinking...hmm, i don't want to be lonely either...we get along great...let's stay together!)
- "you're everything i ever wanted in a wife (now) and i know i'm going to kick myself one day for doing this"
- "even if we stay together now, we'll get divorced anyways 5 years down the road"
- <in response to me saying things have been going well> "well, you know me, i like to keep the peace and can get along with anyone."
- <for the times i meltdown and he comes to console and hold me> "i feel sorry for you"