I would just TELL him you are going and GO. You don't need to negotiate. Your husband is of the mind right now that HE has to GET into the FACE of EVERYONE you expose and talk to. So, I suspect if you start going he will very much want to get in there and tell "his side" of the "story"
VERY good point, I can see that working.
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The problem is your husband thinks this is a WAR between YOU and HIM. It's a WAR between MARRIAGE and INFIDELITY. Your husband needs to bail off the losing side here before you lose respect for him completely. I honestly can't see your mother supporting OW at all in the future... and she should make that CLEAR to her SON. OW was DELIBERATELY SABOTAGING her DAUGHTER in law in SECRET for how many months? Does this guy honestly expect her to welcome this OW into her home?
So true. She's NOT a nice person at all, I can't imagine her ever accepting her into their wonderful family. I'm just grateful that I have had the chance to share with them. My mother is the most loving, wonderful woman ever and MIL is so much like my mom. I just love when they get together, wish they were closer friends... I know my mom loves when they come for visits. I really don't want to lose this family we've both (H and I) grown together. D is more than losing your spouse, it's a breakup of an entire family. My parents ADORE H (they have no idea of the problems we've had other than knowing there was "something" not right from time to time) If they lost not only him, but the RESPECT for him, it would devastate them. And they consider my step children to be their grandchildren. It's just a HUGE mess if this ends.
