gucci, my experience was that, everytime I was pushed (by family + real life friends mostly) to move faster than what I was ready to, it backfired. And yes, counceling forces you to look at things differently, NOT faster than what others think is enough faster than what you would do on your own. Who says my 2 years werent a stretch for me, if it wasnt for counceling it could had taken 5, or who says that 1 year isnt a stretch for someone else? I cant say for anyone. Maybe some cases sound very unhealthy and I can spot those on these boards now but I think most people here, follow their own pace. We can offer oppinions, but we cant force anyone to act on our timeline... Btw, WE (speaking of myself) are not councelors and WE (again for me) have glasses on colored by our experience. (I am guilty for that at least and hope that people can recongnise that) Just my 2 euro cents...
