If you meant "go for it" then it would be even more important to not amend it now. Either you're letting W go do what she wants or you aren't. And yes, telling her when/where she can contact OW is trying to control her.

If she heard, "Go have fun with OW, call me when you decide" then that's her perception. It's up to you to decide if you will sit around waiting for that to happen or to live your life on your terms.

Do you remember exactly what you said? This is why it's important to be clear and not wishy washy when stating boundaries.

Yes, lay low. Stop making this about W and start making it about Amybel. What are you doing to GAL this weekend?

If you love somebody, set them free.
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