Each person has to make this journey on its own pace... IMO
Good counseling doesn't buy that Kalni...
We can certainly help a person to take it at a pace faster than their "own". We can also be appeasing them so much that is helps to cause the person to take a pace slower than "his own"...
Helping people to move faster requires getting them to stretch and reach for things they didn't think or want to do. That is what good counseling does. It helps them to "step up the pace here", just as a pacer does in sports. They are actually controlling the pace while keeping the one hurting from staying in the "whoa is me" mindset and the "take it at your own pace" mindset...
