I agree somewhat. I see it as a man is inclined to search for new challenges and pursuits in his life. I know for myself that I like to always have something I am striving for. Now, we can strive for positive new endeavors like taking up a new hobby or a new interest.
Or,we can take the wrong road like some men choose to do and try and stay away from boredom in our lives by flirting with other women, wanting other women, and such. This is what many men do. They love the thrill of the chase, the in with the new and out with the old feeling. The feeling of getting away from the boredom and humdrum of every day life of going to work, coming home, same ole, same ole.. Go to bed, get up, rinse repeat... An affair gives a man that feeling he has something to look forward to,, to get away from boredom, problems and the smae old everday of life.
This is what happens when a man takes that natural given competitive I need a new challenge spirit and uses that to take a wrong fork in the road......
The woman then REACHES and panics and wants more from him, when in fact she would be smarter to bring back a little more challenge into the relationship by getting stronger and backing off when he is distant. That isn't the norm on here. Women try and try and try to win him. Which actually turns him OFF because of his natural desire to have challenge in his life to feel alive.
Her answer is to make the relationship seem LESS important to her when she recognizes his distance, which in turn gives him what he is naturally drawn toward. CHALLENGE. Men sometimes just need the challenge back. Like the beginning when he wanted her and was pursuing her to win her. The woman forgets how to be "hard to get."
If she does know how to get that back in the relationship... HE is now back in the challenge mode. Take a look at the men on this site. Why are relationships suddenly so important to them? I don't think we can say that these men's relationships are less important to him than the wife's do you?
Of course not. His wife stopped the giving and showed him that she was emotionally dead and didn't care anymore..
Suddenly he has the challenge back.. Look what the men do when that happens. The sad thing is getting women to get the strength to let him go and let him think she is emotionally done. We know that works because of the number of men on this site responding exactly to a woman who has done exactly that.
The women on here are under the impression that letting go means the relationship is done, when it is actally quite the opposite.
