I've seen/read this "where are all the people reconciling" questionsmany times here. Everynow and then, someone gets fed up/tired/sees the light and pops the question. And I tend to agree with Gardener and Serenity. I think there are some important "details" that many of us dont like or cant see though...
Dbing wont change a spouse that has cheated over and over again. It CAN change the way you will handle it.
It will not change an abusive man, it can give you power to stand up to him,
It will not make the OW ugly, unattractive or stupid, but it CAN make YOU attractive again
It will NOT change the timeline, it will NOT necessarily push things foward faster or delay the D, but it can give you a time slot to use if you are lucky...
What I am trying to say is, that if there IS ONE chance, DBing MAY give YOU that chance. All I know is that if I had gotten on the D train 3 years ago, I would be divorced by now. Right now, I am gettng A chance and I am in the position to give him A chance. That's what I came here for. And I got more, I got the power to handle the ending of this mess, either way it goes.
