Yes, bluestar, I believe he is VERY conflicted right now. The way he's been treating me, good and bad, laughing with me in bed at night, touching me again... it's all so anathema to what he had been doing, and not consistent.
25years, I absolutely have done EVERYTHING I can for this M out of love and not hurt. As you can see, I post all my intentions before carrying them out, listen to advice, weigh it heavily, talk to MIL/FIL for more advice, think through what I expect the reaction to be and if it will move me closer to my goals, and THEN I do what I feel needs to be done. So far, for me, exposure has had mostly positive impact. It seems negative to H, but it's putting pressure on him.
