He seems controlled and as if he is following a plan and a strategy.
What you see as controlled is more likely a masked depression. I am sure he is going thru male menopause.
I believe whether he is as WAH or in MLC does not really matter. MLC would actually be better because he might eventually come out of it. Your actions however do not change in either case. As CG said you must take the focus off of your H and worry about YOU. You can not control him either way. The only person you can control is YOU. This is the difficult part to accept.
