I will have to disagree with your statement "Once a cheater, always a cheater"...I know there are some seriously remorseful spouses who have done the work to repair the damage caused to their marriages - My H doesn't happen to be one of them.
Originally Posted By: DumpedforMIL
that would be a dealbreaker for me.
Never say never because until you know what you are faced with, you never truly know how you react to the situation...I said the same thing all along...For 20 years, I always thought cheating would be the dealbreaker for me as well...Turns out it wasn't the cheating that was the dealbreaker, it was the absolute hell he has put me and my children through these past 14 months...
I forgave the cheating...I forgave a lot of things from this man...What I can't look past is the way he treated us like we didn't matter. The utter disrespect still blows my mind...The hatred spewed can still bring me to my knees...The rewriting of our history breaks my heart and the indifference he shows our youngest son is enough to make me go postal.
Once I finally got it in my head that I was worth more then this then the game was on...
The continued cheating is just the icing on the cake.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
