I guess my focus on H is coming from fears of his having an OW and from pressure to confront him about what his intentions are. I feel like I'm making slow progress on detachment, but the talk about reconciliation with the L, etc. has brought my focus back to H. Also, waking up at 2:30 AM and not being able to go back to sleep gave me way too much time to ruminate and I was thinking a lot about his POV, which I haven't been doing as much lately.
OP, I guess I am having trouble interpreting H's behaviour as confusion. He seems to be behaving in a very consistent way and not showing any confusion or mixed messages towards me. He seems controlled and as if he is following a plan and a strategy. I think there is an MLC element to what is going on, but it seems like his behaviour isn't really following the MLC "script" -- he's acting more like a standard WAH, isn't he?
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
gave me way too much time to ruminate and I was thinking a lot about his POV, which I haven't been doing as much lately.
