I think you are right about H's expectation of my bringing in an income either way. And I feel that overcoming the barriers to that is important for me.
Yes there would be a sneaky element to doing the coparenting plan. OTOH, there are real coparenting issues that need to be resolved. I am very concerned about how my children are doing emotionally and H is not listening to my concerns. I feel confused about what's right for my children in this situation that is not at all my choice for how they would be raised. I would welcome some objective input about what's best for the children, esp someone who has experience with S6's autism issues. The coparenting plan will have to happen at some point and I am not willing to have my concerns about the children's well-being dismissed indefinitely. People who know my D3 definitely have noticed the disturbing changes in her, in particular. The question is whether to get the ball rolling on the plan now, or wait for a while to give more time to pass.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.