Thanks so much for the posts - it means a lot to me that I've made such great friends on the BB through this process, and that I've been some source of some amount of comfort to some of you as well. You guys are right that this never ends, our marriages need constant care, our personal growth needs constant attention, as well as our well being in all aspects of our lives. I do feel that I've climbed beyond the sense of crisis but never want to call into complacency again.
Another step forward - W last night asked me for sex. She was nervous, and I did what I had already internalized - took charge, made it safe, comfortable, etc. We talked a lot after about how our intimacy and communication has grown, how good we feel about things, it's more "right" now.
I said at one point that I felt now like a completely different man, and she agreed that she felt that too. I really like the space and mindset I'm in now.
Thank you everybody for all the posts and support, you are all dear friends. Yeah, I'm thinking I'll probably stop maintaining my own thread, but will still be around and will be visiting you all.
