DBing as a lifestyle

[Love2Win]

Hello ((((((((Bill)))))))))),
Well, I can truly say that I am envious of you. (intimacy!!! ) Let's just say that your wife had doubts about overcoming it and when it happened, she still wasn't comfortable. So, you said you need to take charge of that so go for it. GOOD STUFF .

Just remember that what you've learned here should last a lifetime and can help you cement the intimate love that we all yearn for in a M. I think you're on your way to full recovery but like someone said, it'll never end. We have to be sure that those love tanks are always full if we expect to reap the benefits of everlasting love.

I'm soooo happy for you. I know that your path is clear and you still have to get your W to be more comfortable with all of it but you have truly been an inspiration.

Thanks for visiting me and keeping me in line as well. I know that you will be with us till the end either on the BB or in spirit. It's an honor to have you as a friend. Keep up the good work!!!

[KAW]

Hi Bill,
It may very weel be your are approaching the final chapter on busting the "D", but you are just embarking towards working at ever strengthening the bond that draws you closer.

'til later,
KAW

[NoLongerHere]

Hey y'all -

Thanks so much for the posts - it means a lot to me that I've made such great friends on the BB through this process, and that I've been some source of some amount of comfort to some of you as well. You guys are right that this never ends, our marriages need constant care, our personal growth needs constant attention, as well as our well being in all aspects of our lives. I do feel that I've climbed beyond the sense of crisis but never want to call into complacency again.

Another step forward - W last night asked me for sex. She was nervous, and I did what I had already internalized - took charge, made it safe, comfortable, etc. We talked a lot after about how our intimacy and communication has grown, how good we feel about things, it's more "right" now.

I said at one point that I felt now like a completely different man, and she agreed that she felt that too. I really like the space and mindset I'm in now.

Thank you everybody for all the posts and support, you are all dear friends. Yeah, I'm thinking I'll probably stop maintaining my own thread, but will still be around and will be visiting you all.

God bless!!

- Bill

[eddy]

Bill, I have never posted here before, I heard somewhere of the success story over here on your thread, so I started reading it a week ago Tuesday. Well I finally got here, and I'll be damned, It does have a happy ending! Congratulations! My own sitch has been getting really stale and you, YES YOU! Have just put me back on top of the wave! Im pumped up to kick some DB ass. My attitude has taken a 180 and Im really glad I read it all. I may even go back and reread it. There is some really good stuff here. I learned alot. In some ways I found alot of things alike. Mine seems a little more determined to end the R but Im not worried. I can do this... Thanks Bill your an inspiration to me and all us Dbers whose lives are turned upsidedown and insideout. Maybe that ray of light I see about every 3rd day from my W, will shine brighter in a while. God Bless, My prayers are with you. Eddy

By the way, rub some of that DB skill off on me. I could use some right about now.

[NoLongerHere]

Whoa!!

Thanks Eddy, I appreciate the comments, and I'm very glad that my story is helping you! There is so much that I've learned I'm very glad to have captured and articulated it here. It has been a hard time, but the rewards have been awesome - I'm glad to have been through the fire, my R and M is so much stronger and better now.

And for the ultimate closure to my story - as you all know, the big last issue with us was sex...

4 times in the past week... how's that for resurrecting your sex life? With both of us initiating different times, too - that nervousness is gone.

There are happy endings, y'all!! God bless -

- Bill

[kml]

WOOHOO!!!!!
If I knew how, I'd give you a hamster dance for that! Where's WillWin when you need him?

Ellie

[Love2Win]

Dear Bill,

First I want to thank you for being an inspiration to all DBers; a support line and through it all a source of comic relief at times.

Secondly, I am soooo happy for you and your W. God has given you a second chance and I believe your openness and honesty through this process will provide the foundation for your M through eternity.

Lastly, if you could find time in your new found life, could you summarize in a timetable your story w/some points of fact? It may be helpful for others to see the process in practice and SUCCESS!

Although the periods will vary, it will give more inspiration to us and maybe Michelle can use it in her next book! LOL

Thanks Bill for being there for me! Good luck and take care of your family. Tootles..............

[KAW]

THIS deserves to be celebrated with dancing in the streets!!



What the he$$ ... here it goes ...

&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&& GOPHER DANCE &&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&

out the office and all the way home ...

Goodnight everybody,

'til later,
KAW

[KutieKat]

i cannot believe i haven't been here to congratulate you on a job well done, but honey it aint over so that means you can't leave us just yet

you have a wealth of information about what works and what doesn't to share with us, so we will let you off the hook for a bit, but we gotta get you back here!

kitti

[seattlehopeful]

Hi BillM:

Awesome news!! Congratulations!! That is great progress. Do you have a link to your original thread so the rest of us can learn from your posts and the journey you experienced?

Thanks

Wishing you all the best. What a great Christmas gift.