Kerry I loved your story! True or not it made me laugh out so loud S17 and his gf came into the room to find out what was so amusing. They loved it too!

BM S17 knows that he is not guilty of anything other than trying to make himself happy and isn’t that what we all want? XH made the comment about being on the streets b/c he has made no secret of the fact that without the money from me and child benefit etc he cannot afford the house he bought and moved into just before Christmas. It was stupid of him to take that risk b/c even if S17 had stayed I only had another 16 months where I would have been forced to pay anyway. After that I probably would have continued to contribute but at a level that I could afford and not one that was imposed upon me by a system that the government openly admits is less than perfect but refuses to do anything about it.

Walking. I’m sad to be in that ‘told you so’ position but yes I do now feel vindicated. I don’t believe XH will now start to take responsibility for what he has done. He and OW have already started to transfer their manipulative skills onto D14. Unfortunately for them she too has wised up over this! Maybe when they have pushed her beyond a limit that she is prepared to accept, like D20 and S17, then XH will realise but whilst he still has someone to dig at and who he thinks by doing so will ultimately get at me he will just continue to do what he is doing now. So very sad. I think he will end up having created two families but only having one that actually wants anything to do with him.

T. I think you are right. We haven’t seen the worst of XH yet. I am worried about that but at least feel equipped deal with it when it does finally happen.

S17 suggested today that we go for a walk in a nearby park. It is a very large park and as the weather has been so nice it was very busy. However, we had a really lovely time. He didn’t invite his gf along so there was just us two. It was so nice to spend some real quality time with him without him feeling that he has to do it to keep up appearances.

Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15