H4L, more dim sounds good. You don't have to listen to his whining. That's part of a pattern that you don't have to put up with. If your H is like mine, the whining is passive-aggressive...designed to needle you.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
