So right, SFO. That is what I see as my goal, to be OK with being alone and being myself. For so many years I was in a sense performing, trying to be someone my spouse would want. Thank goodness for Dbing as it got me in touch with who I wanted to be. Right now, I don't want to be trying to impress someone, trying to read their minds, dealing with their issues...I want to be OK with being me. Only then can you really be open to sharing with and bringing another into your life in a healthy way. N ow, back to our "attitude of gratitude"...it's kind of like our own Hour Of Power...without the donation requests! I am grateful that my computer is working again...for the moment.