Eye of the storm?

[cyclone]

An update and journaling:

Another MC session last Thursday. The MC is getting pretty direct with W about making a decision but this is close to impossible for W right now. The approach she began to take was to ask my W what she wants. W can't express that but knows what she doesn't want. Nothig she said is somethn that can't be fixed. In fact moat of what she said is what we had before all of this.

MC finally starts to ge us onto talking about what a S or D mig look like. The big surprise for W is that I don't plan give her the house. She thought all along that she would get to stay in the house while I continue to make payments. I calmy explained that the only way we wouldn't have to sell the house is for me to stay there. I can get a loan by myself. She can't. The MC asked W if she were to get the house what would I get as part ofthe division of property. W had no response.

This was all too muh fo her to handle. We all wen to dinner after but W couldn't come home. He said she needed time to process everything. She broke her withdrawal silence yesterday evening. Things don't seem to be any different but I am still givng her space. I am back to detachment with no expectations.

I'm still not sure I like the approach of MC but maybe W needs a push from
a third party. At least she is clear on what the reality will be. Moving forward is a good thing.