Show up at unexpected places, doing unexpected things, i.e. Once a week change my commute to work so every now and then we bump into each other. New clothes, new look and contact lenses should do the talk.
Or, right at the end of the meeting with my W's friend, say I can't stay longer and leave for lunch with an attractive female co-worker.
I don't know about you but I'm not seeing this as "pursuing" since I don't intend to talk or approach my W. You have to remember, since we don't live together, I have no other way to show the new, more confident, fit and mysterious me. I understand it's important that I make her curious and wonder.
I don't know if those are good ideas but right now, I'm considering them because last time she tried to contact me was March 27. That's 15 days.
Apart from exposing the affair, I haven't had proper contact with my wife since Feb 24.
Am I getting too impatient?
Yes you are too impatient. Your goal isn't to show her the new, more confident, fit and mysterious you. Who told you that? You don't sound confident btw. You are worried about the amount of time lapsing between your last contact with her - that's your insecurity and neediness talking, not confidence. Being mysterious.... well you won't accomplish that by bumping into her accidentally on purpose. Why is it important to make her curious and wonder? Who told you that?
Get a real life. Not a fake one put up for display so that your wife can see you and all of your glorious changes and frankly by the way you're talking, I don't see many changes, I still hear someone who is insecure.
Get a real life. Get ready for social interaction with the opposite sex. And start forgetting about your wife for the time being. She'll pop her head up when it's time for her to do so, not on your predetermined time table.
