She's going to keep this "all about her". We are dealing with 2 peas in a pod, Future! I've got our mediator involved and am trying to be as NICE as I can be to get him to sign on the 20th. I think in the end, he will. He just wants to feel like he's doing me a favor when he signs so I'll owe him. Its good to be able to see all of these interactions through a different pair of glasses. My marriage is SO making sense to me now.
I completely enabled him to be selfish, and increasingly for every "favor" he does for me, he wants 10 in return. My friend said that he didn't start out being a prick, but its so clear that he is one now! I let him do it. It brought out the worst in him instead of the best by giving in all the time, and now I've got to deal with this monster part of him that I helped create!
