Proper way to issue an ultimatum?

[amg2]

Thanks Allen for all the info. The thing is, I think is DOES know how to be a husband. He just CHOOSES not to do it and have EAs. With all of our issues, we've been to MC in the past, many books, talks, etc. He's great is so many ways, which is the only reason it's hard to decide whether or not to try at our M. Actually, when he's having his EAs he's often (not so much this time) extra nice to me, b/c he's happier.

And I'm pretty sure he's having a MLC this time too.

Thanks again.