Was was really warm and loving last night, we went out to eat and did just a little shopping with the boys - her suggestion. She wanted to spend time with me, but by the time the boys went to bed we were both just drained. This morning she wanted me and the boys to join her in bed for a big family cuddle.
She was freaking a little bit later - we realized that our garage cabinets were to be delivered this morning and the garage needed to be cleaned out, so I took 45 minutes and moved everything. She was getting frantic, but I stayed calm and took care of it. Just called her too, and she was still frantic (they had arrived, and just the fact that she had to run to the phone annoyed her).
I'm in a place now, though, where I know that W get stressed out, and it's not bothering me. It just is - and I'm staying calm and not reacting to it.
KAW - I'm the same way, it's hard to keep up. Caught up on your thread, and my heart goes out to you. Stay strong, buddy.
Quote: So Bill ... are you of the older generation that has those dip switches that can be set in thousands of different combinations? They were worse than trying to figure out a combination lock.
Depends on what your perspective of "older" is! Heh heh - I do remember having devices with dip switches... when I was twelve... Okay, maybe tells you something about me.
I'm 33 years old, I'm an electrical engineer so it's an easy analagy to think of things as switches, programming register space, transversing state machines, etc.
You know, Karen suggested the camping out thing too - might be cozy, but I know that W values her sleep SO MUCH that she'd fear being uncomfortable and turn it down. Maybe I'll suggest it, though.
We've slept in the same room while on vacation recently; there's a couple of factors, (1) having her own space where she doesn't have to worry about anyone else, and (2) realted to her intimacy issues. We're making baby steps, though, and we're heading in the right direction. Right now I'm satisfied - wow! Patience - where did this come from?
Yeah, my edgy feeling are gone today.
Quote: Of your list, this one struck me the most as being a real benchmark. Its a wonderful sign the the emotional intimacy is being nurtured and is going stronger. This has been one aspect that has been lacking in my M for years and I just don't know how to get it back.
This is a hard one - sometimes I'm good at this and sometimes it doesn't work well at all. It's a mystery to me - I guess an artifact of improved communication and working on intimcay. KAW, this might give you hope - roughy a year ago we had an episode where, in her trying to commincate something that was going wrong, she ended up asking what was wrong with me, was dead inside. Miracles happen.
Well, they're paying me to work, I should get to it (especially since I was an hour late after cleaning up the garage... )
Okay, maybe tells you something about me.
