Next steps
I will continue GAL consistently. Next week provides me with many opportunities to do so and concentrate in other things. I'm starting to get to the point where I can think about my W and I don't let my feelings overwhelm me.

Question

I had a brief chat with a friend in common and she tells me that my W says she's "very busy but also very happy and focusing on the positive".

Is "happy" a normal state of a WAW whose affair has been exposed? Of course, she might be happy because her BF moved in but it also might be because the affair is still going on. (BTW, my W finally changed her other email account's password right after the BF arrived. This suggest she told my W details of the evidence I used to expose to OM's W).

In any case, I understand how I can't do anything about her "happiness". In fact, I'm ok with her happiness but I wonder if something in the plan isn't quite working.

A good friend suggested stirring things up a little i.e. let her get a missed call from my cellphone number. When she calls back later, I don't answer.

I had some other ideas.

Show up at unexpected places, doing unexpected things, i.e. Once a week change my commute to work so every now and then we bump into each other. New clothes, new look and contact lenses should do the talk.

Or, right at the end of the meeting with my W's friend, say I can't stay longer and leave for lunch with an attractive female co-worker.

I don't know about you but I'm not seeing this as "pursuing" since I don't intend to talk or approach my W. You have to remember, since we don't live together, I have no other way to show the new, more confident, fit and mysterious me. I understand it's important that I make her curious and wonder.

I don't know if those are good ideas but right now, I'm considering them because last time she tried to contact me was March 27. That's 15 days.

Apart from exposing the affair, I haven't had proper contact with my wife since Feb 24.

Am I getting too impatient?

Last edited by FormelyknownasF; 04/10/10 07:32 AM.

Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *

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