Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

Thanks for the critiquing the e-mail for me. I definately wanted someone to look it over before I sent it to H. I won't send the e-mail yet but it felt good to put my feelings on paper since H and I don't seem to know how to communicate to each other about what has happened.

4luv- I know what you mean about sending your H a letter and then changing your mind. I have basically tried to communicate to H how I feel but it usually becomes a debate between us and he also says that I am trying to make him feel bad. He doesn't seem to like the guilt that is associated with what he has done. This e-mail is the first stand up letter that I have sent to H and hopefully he will respond in a positive way but he might just get mad, make excuses for his actions, or not respond at all.

Allen- I agree with you on the wording that I used about the kids not needing child support as much as their dad. Maybe I should change the wording to "H, you providing financial support to the kids is not going to fill the void of you not physically and mentally being here for them. They constantly ask me "where are you, when are you coming home for good?"

As of right now, we do not have any legal agreements regarding our separation, visitation regarding the kids, or any child support payments ordered by the court. I haven't went that route yet because H gives us most of his unemployment money. Once H does get a job, I am hoping that he will give me money voluntarily for the kids because there will be no more unemployment coming into our joint account. If he doesn't then I will have look into getting child support. After what happened at the BBQ last saturday with husband, I don't think I will attending too many of the family gatherings where he is present also. My MIL, SIL, and BIL would probably be upset if I am not there but it is just too uncomfortable for me when he purposely ignores me.