Agree with Puppy. You've had your say, anything else just makes you look like you'll give in on everything sooner or later.

If you start making allowances and exceptions now then you've just negated your boundaries.

No, W does NOT have to be in contact with OW. She needs to know and believe that if she chooses to do that then there will be consequences.

If you love somebody, set them free.
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