We had that little argument tonight... what makes up a serial cheater. I said, I don't know, you cheated three times in two Ms that I know of, how do you define it? Five times? Eight?

Anyway, I came home from my class tonight and told him the following:
1. I am NOT ready to give up on us, although I am fine with scrapping the old M (symbolically)
2. I am NOT giving up the kids, the house or the dogs.
3. I want to start dating and see how it goes.
4. I will start counseling if he desires, and I would like it if he went with me once or twice to fill them in on his side.

Now, I know it's a R talk and I know it was not well received. He tried to bait me twice and I didn't fall for it. However, I needed to get that out because tomorrow while I'm learning to drive the motorcycle, he will be at MIL's house filling her in on the "rest" of the story about me. He told her she does NOT have the full story about me. She's prepared to repeat the request/demand that he go to counseling and give me/the M another chance. However, the story he gave her was that "we had spoken and came to the conclusion that it's pretty much not able to come back." Well, I had never said that and I needed to make sure my position was CLEAR before he went over there.

So, I told him I wanted a monogamous relationship and another chance, starting with dating. He said "who are you going to ask about that? ME?" I said yes, of course, I'd have to believe him. (I know guys, I was just avoiding the bait.)

He seemed angry or at least shut off during this convo, as you can imagine... but then we were in the kitchen and he asked about the class and seemed genuinely interested in what happened. (babystep) He asked lots of questions and when he asked what I planned to do with the license (since we can't afford to buy me a motorcycle) I told him I had planned on renting one and going up north to camp in the mountains. He got a bit excited and said, xxx rents cycles and my brother told me I could always borrow his. Bike camping is the best because it's just you and the bike..." Then he kind of realized he was making future plans with me (I think, from his expression) and shut up.

What do you think? 2x4s for me?


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