How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

I am certainly up for the task. I have never felt this way about her and I have so much to give and I hope its not "too little too late."

Marriage has never meant so much to me. I did so much damage to our R and I am willing to endure hell to reconcile...and have endurer as much so far but I keep going

And if she suddenly becomes a clinging vine and needing a lot of emotional things from you, and wanting you to spend all your free time with her....will you still be so intent on keeping her? One reason you want her so badly is b/c you are on the verge of losing her, but what if that changes?

if that suddenly happened I would be a very happy person. I always wanted her but never thought she would leave and so the routine continued. I always thought she would be mine. Now I know the reality of it all is she WILL LEAVE and if she decided to give us one more chance I would NEVER ruin it again. I would NEVER HURT her again....

You know sandi, I was actually in the living room watching TV with her on a separate couch. I was in a rut, not just because I am losing her or have already lost her but because I was VERY disappointed in myself for what happened in the past 24hrs. I should have just kept my mouth shut. I decided to go up stairs not exactly sure what I should do from this point. So I read your post and got up and went right back down stairs and continues to watch TV with her until she went to bed.

I want her to know how I feel about her but I don't want to pressure her. I want to be a person where when it came down to it she would question herself "Do I really want someone else having something this good when I can have it for myself?" and I don't know how to accomplish this.

I said "goodnight" to her tonight and have not said it since week 3 or so in our sitch. She did not say it back but I thought "If she left, would she miss my 'goodnight's? "

It is not a question of how I feel about her but rather how she feels about me. I want to become someone she will miss if she made that decision to leave. I pray she it does not come to that point....