help with a plan

[mza8]

IDU, hey buddy. You're just having a couple of bad days, it's ok. You're doing great man! You helping your W with the kid's homework and shower was great! I'm sure you're W appreciated it. She came over to give you a kiss good night...her way of saying thank you don't you think?

It sounds like she is under a lot of stress right now with the dance. I don't think she is capable of giving you much of what you're looking for right now until this dance is over. I know you're stressed too but keep up the cheerful attitude with her. There are some positive signs. She is asking for your help with things and seems appreciative when you help her. Knock her socks off and instead of her asking you to do something to help her, you ask her what you can do to help or better yet just do something to help her out that she didn't have to ask you for.

I know you want to see more from your W right now. You said it yourself...patience is the key. Keep venting here but remain positive and upbeat with your W. Also, don't mind read. You have no idea what is going on in your W's mind. You are expecting the worst from her yet you have no idea what is going on in her mind. In my recent DB coaching session, I asked my coach is my W's recent friendliness was a sign that she was coming around or was she just being nice because she is comfortable with moving on? My DB coach said that my W may not even know what she wants to do right now but indicated the increased friendliness and improved communication were positive signs. Keep doing what you're doing. What you're trying to accomplish right now is not pushing her away and looking for positive momentum. Maybe try making that your goal for right now.

One more thing. Don't ever worry about statistics. I could look on the internet and find you 100 different statistics for success rates for reconciliation. Who cares? The only thing that matters is your sitch and how you handle it. You are far better off for being here because you have the knowledge of the DB techniques which can help your sitch. You are already ahead of the game.

Go to the dance, be upbeat, help out without being asked. I think this will go along way. Give it some more time. Keep strong man, you can do this.