Ugh, FM, I'm SO sorry. I think I accidentally turned off my email notification for your thread and am just now catching up on like 3 pages. (((FM)))

Jeez, I don't even know where to start, but I agree with the folks who said try not to give V/OW any more space in your head. She and H don't deserve it, whether or not there is an A. It will only hurt you to dwell (easier said than done).

I'm also impressed and proud of you for seeing your L. Given all that you've mentioned about procrastination, this was huge for you. Now I need to get up that same courage. She sounds great (again, I know you don't want to be doing this, but if you have to have an L, she sounds good) and I like that she has an IC/MC she works with.

I'm also glad you have some info about financial stuff, etc. that she gave you- knowledge truly is power and we need to take some of that power back- there's an imbalance for a lot of us here.

I, too, am thinking D is probably a given in my sitch. It's hard to even stop and think whether I want H like he is anymore. We're so focused on whether they want us and trying to prevent them from Ding us, you know?

Thank you for all your support for me- you are an amazing woman and if H doesn't realize that and all you have to offer, well, he is missing out and making a huge mistake.

When the men on the chessboard
Get up and tell you where to go;
And you've just had some kind of mushroom
And your mind is moving slow;
Go ask Alice...
I think she'll know.