IDU..
My, when I read your sitch, it seems like I am living in your home.
My W is the exact same right now. I am trying to push her to make decisions, but I am told by the IC that what I am saying to her will it bring me closer or further to her ? It sucks really.. I am a results oriented guy, I need to see results quickly. This process is very long and hard. I understand what your going through.
Its because of this site that I am trying to be patience and wait it out. I also with you if we are really doing the right thing. Will she ever get out of the fog ?

I too have kids, and some days are better than others.
Stay strong, still hope and basically we have lost them already, your doing your best and if all else fails the kids will know you did the best you could..

Keep strong.. I know its tough. I am with ya!...

M 43 W 43
S15 S 12 D 10
ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009)
Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010.
Sep as of 07/14/2010
W moving out 07/31/2010
No OM confirmed ( yet)