Maybe I didn't blow it?

[ninelives]

I'm in the same boat brother. Don't know whether to be there for her and support or to GAL, which i think we are all trying to do to the best of our abilities.

I think you need to "feel her out" every time you get together and let her do most of the talking and see what direction she takes.

My W talked a little about the R, but then quickly changed the subject and I didn't press. Its like they almost want to get back but don't know how and are afraid that they will be back at that unhappy place that made them want to leave.

I'm finding out for myself is how much am I willing to endure and for how long. This is obviously different for everybody but if there was a significant amount of time spent togeher, with children, Patience is your best friend but not a comfortable one.