Please do something to take of yourself Hope. A walk, some meditation, something.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I'm so sorry today is a tough day. Can you make plans to not be alone this evening- be with a friend or family?
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
I'm home with S and he's crying because mommy isn't playing with him. I'm so angry that H is going out to do something fun with his gf tomorrow - he should be doing these things with S and I. I asked him to take S more this weekend because I"m not feeling well and he's too busy
That really sucks. You should be able count on him, but right now you can't. Time to call in favours if you can. Take care of yourself. You can't focus on your S all the time, but try to set the timer and do it for a specific amount of time...it's a good practice.
Hang in there...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Doing ok Let H give him dinner tonight while I rested in the back room. H complaining how tired he is and overworked - but hey, he has time to spend tomorrow with his OW doesn't he? But we're rushed...
Obssessed with thoughts tonight that he is with OW and having a grand old night if you know what I mean.
Went to a childcare job this evening where I watch the kids while the parents are in a church group. That uplifted my spirits enormously. S is off next week from preschool so I really have to get my act together and be there for him. Making plans.
Trying to convince myself this isn't my fault. Yes we had horrible fights. BUt H refuses to see his part in it. Wants to ditch the M to avoid the fights instead of working on it.
Just think of being dim as protecting yourself rather than staying out of H's way! Being dim isnt something to be scared off more self preservation some times! (())
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H4L, more dim sounds good. You don't have to listen to his whining. That's part of a pattern that you don't have to put up with. If your H is like mine, the whining is passive-aggressive...designed to needle you.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Really. Who wants to hear all that complaining at this point after what you're going through? Staying dim keeps his complaints out of your ears! I'm interested in what FM has to say about whining being passive-aggressive. Maybe someone will explain that. Never thought of it that way.
I hope you get some decent rest tonight and some peace this week. I know this has been very tough on you.
I'm interested in what FM has to say about whining being passive-aggressive. Maybe someone will explain that. Never thought of it that way.
For example, if Hope's H is whining about working so hard, there could be the unspoken implication that it's her fault that he's working so hard because he has to support her, etc. If there's that kind of edge to his whining, I would call that passive aggressive. I certainly was the recipient of a LOT of that kind of thing from my H.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
