The free spirit I used to be before I became tied down and a slave to a family that I love to death... but just ate me alive. I BECAME the woman I was BECAUSE H abandoned me emotionally and left me to care for HIS children and not take ANY responsibility. IF he decides to work on the M, I WELCOME this new, take-charge man as it will take a HUGE load off. I haven't played my guitar or violin in YEARS and YEARS, I haven't written poetry for 10+ years, painted a picture (except for one for my stepmother) in 10+ years. Taken classes - I dropped out of school to care for his children with only three classes left to graduate and apply to vet school... I did that FOR HIM and because I love these children with all my heart and soul. I was honor roll in Biology and Chemistry - national honors plus I tutored. I am GOOD at these things and I LOVE them, but I felt so kept and I now feel free.
THis is your mirror of his rant this afternoon.
But if you compare those two, and look at what YOU've been doing over the past few weeks and what HE's been doing over the past few weeks...
He just looks like a complete a$$
His arguments earlier only carry weight if YOU have been on cloud nine for the last three years and have given up nothing.
The fact is, you both made a lot of sacrifices.. but you aren't miserable about yours, even NOW.. HE feels entitled to be both miserable and to HURT people because HE was in PAIN.. the same PAIN you were in.
Funny, for three years he felt so lousy, but he never gave one thought to the possibility that his wife might feel something was lost in the marriage too...
This guy needs some serious humbling.. he seems to think he is the only one in the world who hurts right now.
I would work on that paragraph you have above and expand on how much YOU have sacrificed over the many years with your H so HE can maybe see that HE is not the ONLY one who feels HURT right now.
