The thing about my husband, whom I do love and don't want to divorce, despite his warts..let me make that MASSIVE warts...is that he will never harm me or challenge me physically or in any threatening way. He will never front up at my door making abusive demands. He is a gentle creature. I'm more pitbull than him. I guess the way he is behaving today is the only way he can hurt me - to abandon me emotionally.
He said once he would not challenge me if I go for full custody. But that's also about a strange disconnectedness he's got how....and I see it as being tied in with his "inner child" --- this running from his past and personal story (his Dad leaving) that he does so well.
He's an 'arrivist' and a survivor - no dad, overly emotional and dependent single mum , quite poor - and he's survived up untl this grand age of 40 on his brains, his capacity for friendship and his charms (he's the life of the party & adored by all - he's Godfather to two children already!!). By being these things he was able to have himself 'adapoted' into other more stable, more middle-class families, as he has permentantly been on the run from his own. He escaped into my family too. He escaped big time into the family of OW - from the age of ten that extended family has been his 'replacement' family.
And now, on the cusp of creating his own... he puts on the running shoes and he's off.
