The h has said that if I was mad at him it would make it easier for him. He thinks I will be vindictive if he files for d. I told him that if he needs to file then he should but I wasn't going to be vindictive because that is not the type of person I am. He should know that but he is just looking for excuses.
I decided if he asks me about "us" I am going to tell him:
that time will tell what is going to happen to us, I do want our m to work but I cannot wait my whole life for him and that he needs to make decision for himself that are what he wants in his life.
This might be a rough draft
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
