I warn you in advance, I am a hardliner, I do NOT beleive in CODDLING a wayward back home when they are addicted to a viscious affair. This just makes the LBS VERY ILL.
Just don't know Allen if there IS any affair. A couple of posts back I outline whether it's reason 1. affair 2. scared of fatherhood or 3. immaturity/avoiding responsibility that are driving him today. Don't know if A is over or not. It's certainly been over physically for 3 months cos she's o/seas.
If it's 2 and 3, surely I have a different problem on my hands and my response to H should differ?
What if he is truly UNWELL? A nervous breakdwn? Can I play hardball ? What if I destroy him more?
Originally Posted By: Allen A
And you piano are in NO POSITION to be diong ANYTHING that affects YOUR PHYSICAL self right in a bad way.
You have my promise, Allen - I am very well physcially - my doctors and pilates teacher and my psych say I am in great physical shape and mentally as good as I can be right now.
Originally Posted By: Allen A
CUt him off and draft a good solid letter telling him to not contact you and that he's a terrible father already. I do NOT agree with the DB coach that you should be coddling him. I did that with my wife for a year and her affair just got WORSE (and my db coach at hte time gave me the same advice as you got).
I strongly think that this man needs to be told how terrible a father he is. AND he IS a terrible father. Fatherhood has ALREADY started... and he's CRAP at it... take the warning. He will just dissappoint this child by making false promises and offering dissappointment.
